Online flirting: 12 tips that actually work

Start with curiosity, not compliments

A compliment about someone's looks as an opening line rarely works. Interest in who someone is does. Ask about something from the conversation or their profile, and respond to what they tell you.

12 tips at a glance

These small things make the difference:

• Ask open questions that invite more than yes or no.
• Remember details and come back to them: it feels personal.
• Dare to tease lightly, but never meanly.
• Use humour that fits you; forced jokes stand out.
• Share something about yourself too, it shouldn't become an interview.
• Vary your length: not only walls of text, not only "haha".
• An emoji can help set the tone, but don't overdo it.
• Give a genuine compliment about something someone says or does.
• Don't play games by replying late on purpose.
• Respect the other person's pace.
• If you don't notice interest in return, let it go.
• Be honest about what you're looking for.

Signs that it clicks

They ask you questions too, reply quickly and enthusiastically, return to earlier topics and make jokes. Then you're doing well. Short, closed answers usually mean there's no click, and that is completely fine.

Boundaries: what you never do

Flirting is fun as long as it's fun for both. Don't send explicit messages or photos unless the other person clearly asks for it, don't push after a no, and don't ask for a phone number or address straight away. If someone gets pushy with you, simply block them.

The next step

If it really clicks, you can both press "Match" on LiefdesKlik. Your conversation is then saved in Messages and you can continue later, without having to swap numbers right away.